Today I want to explore a concept that I have wanted to write about for a while. I think it is going to be a little less structured than some of my other posts that I have written to this point, because this is still something I am exploring and experiencing in my own life.
Something dawned on me today. It came into stark clarity in a way that I have never actually realized before. Put simply: violence spreads. Trauma does not affect just the direct parties, but spreads as a wound through a larger community. While I don’t think this is particularly noteworthy, my realization was that this violence can be self-directed, and can harmfully spread to a larger community, namely our loved ones.
I would like to discuss in the post one of the tools that I have refined (I hesitate to say developed simply because it has been influenced by so many sources, and looks like other things that I do not want to claim originality for it) for my usage in times of stress. Basically this process is helpful for formalizing some steps that can be taken when dealing with intensely stressful situations over which we have control of our person, for people who struggle with their relationship to their emotions.
Mental illness is not an excuse to assault or otherwise harm the people closest to you. I learned this the hard way. It does not matter the reason, if you continue to hurt those who love you, intentionally or unintentionally, they will eventually leave. Everyone deserves happiness and at some point they will take ownership of that.
In preparing for my next piece about the process I have developed for myself that seems to work in processing and handling of emotional situations, I realized that there is a concept that I need to outline and discuss a little bit before I can meaningfully talk about the other process. This is the concept that I like to call rapture.
I feel like I have learned a lot about boundaries over the past month, and I wanted to write down my thoughts about boundaries and the different types of boundaries that can be classified so that people have a better ability to talk about boundaries. I have determined that I would classify boundaries into a least 4 types:
Note from the author: This treatise has been modified slightly from a proposal written to a former company that I worked for to generalize it. Areas of specific technology considerations pertinent to the company this was written for will either be removed, or annotated to indicate such.</i>
